Dick jewelry – recommendation

Since I’ve had my dick pierced, I’ve been trying different jewelry manufacturers. I’ve finally settled on one that works best for me, and so I’ll make a straight-up recommendation.

What I am looking for in steel jewelry is:

  • High quality surgical steel
  • Well crafted
  • Large end balls available
  • Ideally: Balls can be re-used when gauging up
  • Ideally: Threaded tapers available

The desire to have large end balls bears explaining. To avoid the top ball of my PA slipping into my meatus, I need a 9/16″ ball. I rushed stretching because I am a) impatient and b) wanted to get to a larger gauge so the jewelry wouldn’t “slip in” any more, sooner rather than later. That was not ideal. If I could have had a 9/16″ ball at 6ga, that’d have been ideal.

And so my recommendation: Body Circle Designs.

Their “large-gauge” barbells (6ga and up) can be ordered without balls, and you can order balls individually from 1/4″ all the way up to 1″. These balls work from barbell gauges as low as 6ga and as high as 1/2″ (beyond 000ga).

I’ve been using a 2ga curved barbell with a 9/16″ ball at the top and a 3/8″ ball at the bottom since August 2016. It’s been completely comfortable, and has helped me heal the “blowout” I caused when stretching to 2ga too soon.

I’ve also used Industrial Strength, which was my go-to vendor while stretching. I can’t re-use end balls from gauge to gauge there, and they don’t offer sufficiently large balls below 2ga. Even at 2ga they don’t go beyond 1/2″, which is still not quite right for me. While they are a good vendor, that makes them unsuitable for my personal use.

I am not an affiliate of either vendor. I don’t get paid for this recommendation.

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Prince Albert: 2ga

About a year ago, Bear had my cock pierced with a “Prince Albert” piercing. I started at a jewelry size of 8ga – about 1/8″ of an inch – and have stretched that, over this year, to 2ga today, about 1/4″ of an inch.

My last attempt to go to 2ga didn’t turn out well. This time around, I stretched much more slowly, over a period of a week and a half, and it still didn’t go well. As before, the newly stretched piercing would heal for about 3 days, and then get increasingly irritated and inflamed and sore again.

This time, I had alternate jewelry ready, a titanium captive bead instead of the surgical steel horseshoe barbell. That solved it, and allowed the piercing to heal.

I’m not sure why the steel barbell didn’t work for me. It’s possible the steel is not of the advertised quality and I had an allergic reaction, though the 4ga barbell by the same manufacturer was fine. It’s also possible it was just too damn heavy. I may try wearing it again when the piercing has had a few more months to heal.

I had a few reasons to want to be at 2ga.

I got pierced originally so a locking hollow “piss-through” titanium curved barbell by Steelwerks could go in there. That sounded insanely hot to the both of us. It turns out Bear likes the look of a captive bead ring a whole lot better than a curved barbell, so that idea is out, and a titanium “rainbow-hued” captive bead ring is in. It’s got the kinky “ermagerd it’s locked into me” factor as well: That thing isn’t going anywhere without using a very serious-looking tool.

I didn’t like that the ball at the end of the barbell could slip into my urethra. Well, it still can. It certainly can with the captive bead ring, and even the horseshoe barbell with a 1/2″ ball at the end is not immune to it. If Bear ever gets cured of his Crohn’s and I get to top him again, I may need to go to 0ga. That’s a far-off hypothetical, so I’m not bothered by it.

I wanted the jewelry to be thicker just because I liked the look of it. 2ga is a resounding success. It looks nice. Not so thick as to look out of scale in comparison to my cock head; thick enough to be substantial and not look flimsy.

No more stretching and cross-your-leg entries from me for the foreseeable future :).

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Blowout

This is going to be one of those “cross your legs” posts. Fair warning.

A month ago, I decided it was time. Time to stretch my PA piercing to 2ga. With Bear watching, I took my time, and stopped with the taper about halfway through, when it started to be painful. It freaked Bear out, and stopping there was the right thing to do. I’d try again 3 days or so later.

And then impatience got the better of me (only half a millimeter to go! How bad can it be?) and I tried again 3 hours later, ignored the pain, and pushed that taper through, followed by a heavy 2ga steel horseshoe barbell. Bad idea.

I was in pain for the night. Radiating out to my hips and feet type of pain. The next morning, I was walking funny. Still, I didn’t take the 2ga jewelry out. Surely, this would heal again. Another bad idea.

Two days later, the piercing felt better. I had also learned that 2ga jewelry is way heavier than 4ga, and I need to be careful standing up from the toilet. I bruised my cock head when the jewelry hit the rim. Ouch.

Another day or two later, the pain was back, and it wasn’t getting better. There was an angry red donut of flesh around the piercing hole, what Google tells me is called a “blowout”. I tried going down to 4ga. That lasted less than a day.

Ultimately, I had to step down to 8ga, the size I was first pierced at. I waited three days, during which time the piercing stopped being so angry and was closing up. Then I slipped the 6ga jewelry in, which fit, if barely.

After another three weeks, I carefully stretched back to 4ga. Minor discomfort with that. That was last night, and that’s where I am at now.

Hopefully I didn’t create a lasting problem. Scar tissue doesn’t stretch very well. I will wait another month or two, and then slowly, in stages, stretch to 2ga again.

Why, one might ask, am I doing this to myself? Part of it is functional. I have a large urethral opening. The largest ball diameter available for 4ga easily slips into my urethra, which does not make for sexy times. A 7/16″ ball, which is what came with my 2ga jewelry, still slips in. I’ve ordered a 1/2″ ball, with the hope that it’s big enough to stay outside my cock.

I do like the way 2ga looks. For the thickness of my cock, it’s the right size. Bear has ordered pretty rainbow-hued titanium jewelry in 2ga, with a 7/16″ captive bead. Hopefully the whole “ball can slip in” thing is much less of an issue with a captive bead ring than it is with a curved barbell or horseshoe barbell.

If urethral slippage continues to be a thing to worry about, then I’d have to be on to 0ga. Honestly though, after this next stretch, I think I can be done. I’ve learnt my lessons, and I’m not too keen to go through the stretch to 0ga. Though I will if Bear deems it necessary or desirable. Slowly. Ever so slowly. Not all in one day.

I’m reminded of a saying: “Slow is fast.”

 

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Jewelry malfunction

I do like the Industrial Strength steel jewelry. It’s precision-machined and clean. It turns out, you can overdo precision machining with cock jewelry. While skiing, I lost one of the balls to my horseshoe barbell.

I had warning this might happen. One night, when we had friends over, one of them picked up that ball from the floor and said “I just found this, what is it?” Oh boy. I told him thanks, and I’d need a minute, and disappeared into the bathroom.

After that I looked at Loctite Purple, but didn’t use it because after screwing the ball on as tight as it would go with hand strength, it didn’t budge for a month or so.

Until I went skiing. The extra friction must have screwed it right off. I ordered a replacement ball and will use Loctite this time.

Somehow the words “Loctite Purple” in combination with cock jewelry is a bit scary, but I’ll trust that “low strength” means exactly that.

 

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Stretching, round 2

After my last attempt at a PA piercing stretch turned out rather unpleasant, I figured I’d get better tools this time. I got a threaded taper and a horseshoe barbell to go with it, 4ga in size. I use sterile lube packets and a sterilizing wipe, to reduce the risk of infection. UTIs are the devil.

This went much better. I gave it a go on a Sunday and got the taper about halfway in before it moved from “that pinches” to “that hurts.” I let it be and tried again when I felt ready three days later. That time, it went in reasonably easily to about halfway. I got it to three quarters through with patience, lots of lube and some deep breathing, and then it slid through the rest of the way.

The way these tapers work they, unfortunately, have a bit more of a gap between the taper and curved jewelry than you’d want, so moving the jewelry through after the taper was through took a bit of care and adjustment of angle to avoid pain.

About a week after that, Bear offered to tease me and I really wanted that, so I didn’t say a thing when his ministrations didn’t feel so tender. I paid for it the next day. Owch. My cock is pissed off with me. I’m sure it’ll recover with proper rest.

My local piercing studio would do the stretch for me, and it’d cost me a lot less than buying these tapers. But: From what I read, a professional piercer will basically jam the taper through there. That does not sound like fun. I’d rather do this at home, where I can take 5 minutes, and can stop and try again a few days later if it doesn’t feel right.

My experience with larger jewelry has been good so far. I got pierced at 8ga, and even after 4 months of healing, that could still feel “pinchy” when Bear stroked me. With 6ga, that feeling was just about gone (after a few weeks of letting the stretch heal). I’m assuming 4ga will feel even better once it’s healed again.

The Internet tells me 2ga and a curved barbell with a large ball on top is the “sweet spot” when penetrating a partner. Large enough to be pleasurable, not painful for either party, and nothing that can snag on anything. I don’t penetrate, but it’s good to know :).

I’m not one of those guys where the PA stretches naturally, at least not within 2 months. I ordered a taper and barbell to stretch to 2ga. It should take 1-2 months to get here, and I’ll likely attempt another stretch in 2-3 months.

I’m not quite sure where I’ll end up. Bear is still interested in a hollow barbell. The ball on the 4ga jewelry disappears pretty easily into my urethra, and that ball’s the equivalent of 0ga. I don’t want to piss past a hollow barbell, that sounds messy. I’ve sent a note to Chris at Steelwerks Extreme on sizing advice.

Piercing my dick still has been the best thing I’ve done for it. I do love the PA. Can’t recommend it highly enough – as long as it’s safe to get the piercing, of course.

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Stretching

The PA piercing I have doesn’t readily stretch on its own. That might be because the titanium curved barbell I have had in there does not weigh a whole lot. It’s been a bit over 4 months since I was pierced, so I figured I’d help things along a little, by means of a taper.

The taper I chose is stainless steel, and long enough to be gentle. I did, however, go for the budget model – reasoning that I’d need it only once – and that means it doesn’t screw into the jewelry I bought. That wasn’t the best decision I could have made.

I used a sterilizing wipe just because. I realize that’s no autoclave. The only person handling the jewelry is myself, though, so I think I’ll be fine here.

With plenty of (sterile) lube, there was quite a bit of pinching when the taper was about 2/3rds of the way through. A few minutes of gentle pressure and patience saw it going almost all the way through, and I then pushed it through with the jewelry, intending the jewelry to follow. No such luck. See aforementioned “wouldn’t it be nice if the jewelry screwed to the taper.” I tried twice more and got some spotting of blood, so I stopped and put the old jewelry back in.

I could not, of course, let this go. A few hours later I tried again, this time connecting the jewelry to the taper with plumber’s tape. Very hick, ya’ll. That sort of worked, but not really. The tape, even lubed, does not want to go through the piercing. After a bunch more tries, I removed the tape again, and by that time the piercing was loose enough that the jewelry did follow the taper through after three attempts or so. No blood this time.

I’d like to know why my dick wants to be fully erect when I’m subjecting it to this kind of treatment. It must be as kinky as I am.

End result: Sore dick, and a 6ga stainless steel circular barbell. I chose a circular barbell and steel this time because this style of jewelry is heavier. I am hoping that will make the next stretch to 4ga easier, which I may attempt in 2 months.

I can say that I think a circular barbell is sub-optimal when you’re uncut. I expect I’ll go back to a curved barbell when I have stretched to where I want to be, which, right now, is 2ga.

Happy New Year!

 

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That happy subby feeling

The other night, I told Bear that getting pierced was the best thing that had happened to me in a long time.

“Why is that?” he inquired.

Because it felt like he finally accepted me for who I am, I said.

“I’ve always accepted you for who you are,” Bear said. “I think it’s more that I am now accepting my part of that, my responsibility.”

He has an excellent point. To unpack that conversation a little: The piercing is a first step. It’ll heal, and I’ll stretch it to 4ga, and then for our wedding anniversary next year, Bear will put a locking curved barbell into my dick, and he’ll take ownership of me again. Which he relinquished when our first attempt at Master/pet crashed and burned, lo these many years ago.

To me, then, this isn’t just a piercing. It’s a symbol. Bear has told me that the piercing and the jewelry in it are his. By extension, my dick belongs to him; and next year, I will belong to him. And that feels great.

I told him that I view the piercing as a piece of his will and desire that is always in me. He looked at me somewhat blankly, then joked “if I could always be in you, I would be.” I think I may have gone a little overboard with the flowery language.

I am definitely reacting to Bear’s increasing sense of dominance. It makes it easier for me to remember that he has the last say – though I still talk back plenty – and to address him as “Sir” in the appropriate context. And I am hoping that this, in turn, makes it easier for him to show his dominant side, that we have the beginnings of a positive feedback loop here.

However our relationship evolves, you know I’ll be blogging about it here.

This Saturday, Bear started teasing me again. Very lightly, just running a fingertip along the underside of my cock or the edges, or touching a fingertip to the piercing. This is intensely pleasurable, and I get vocal and loud when he does that. Until he reminds me our son is in the house and I should keep it down.

I am happy he’s comfortable teasing me again. I crave more, I want him to wrap my cock in his hand and stroke me. He is waiting until the piercing has had more time to heal. I want to be patient, and I am. I was debating whether I should tell him about the cravings I feel, and decided it was better for me to tell him, and tell him that I want to be patient and this is not to be understood as me pestering him. He told me he wants to know what I feel.

The piercing feels healed at this point, though being careful with it is definitely still the order of the day. It’s been a bit over 2 weeks since it went in.

Bear has had 3 orgasms in the past 4 days, which is quite unusual for him. He doesn’t often have that much sexual appetite. I am enjoying it thoroughly.

 

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